In the last three years we have seen how they have increased requests that come to us by organizations-both services training as coaching-, focused on the desire to attract leaders in the skills necessary to develop their teams through managing emotions, own and others'.
We see how companies have realized that both emotional intelligence and social, they are becoming core competencies for leadership development and the convenience they are increasingly present in the rest of the professionals.
One of my coaching clients told me last week that he used to scream and threaten his seven year old daughter when she did not obey him. Sometimes he said he was going to cancel her birthday party when she did not want to bathe before dinner, even knowing that it would not meet. The girl ended up bathing, but he increasingly felt worse because I knew that was not the best way to raise a child. Trying to explore what it was that drove him to behave well, le pregunté qué necesidad subyacía debajo de aquella actitud. Tras un breve período de exploración mi cliente concluyó, it was a need to be respected and also happened to him in his work with his colleagues, employees and management.
Many people need to feel that others respect, without knowing that for this to occur the solution is not to exercise its authority through the imposition, but in themselves be the first to be respected. If what we want is respect, assessment and recognition of people around us, we must begin by making an inside job which directs us to value and respect ourselves.
This article begins with a seemingly simple in concept, but that is not much when it comes to putting it into practice. We begin to respect when we include regularly in our lives, and we feel comfortable in doing, two of the basic statements: “sí” y “no”.
By saying "yes" to something we are exercising our right to choose and this means being prepared to take responsibility and the consequences of our choices. We may be wrong but we will know if we are ready to make the learning that has given us this mistake and use it to continue to make decisions and take life by the way we want. If we do not do and let others decide for us, not take the reins of our lives, and we will be weak and vulnerable beings, under other.
Saying "no" to other means, sometimes, receive rejection and lack of approval of the people do not accept and may decide to deviate from our life. The price of personal freedom is high and you have to be very sure of oneself, not to be carried away and give others what they expect from us.
But tell “not” others we can resular complicated, further it, sometimes, tell yourself, a nuestras apetencias y a nuestros estados de ánimo limitantes. Decirse “not” oneself involves willpower.
Learn to use appropriate so these two simple words in our lives, not get carried away by emotions that can generate ourself, enables us to lead us ourselves, to respect and value ourselves and consequently also to do with the teams and the people in our care.
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