It is often thought that assertiveness is only to say NO and, however, be much more assertive: is to be able to express themselves with confidence in oneself without resorting to passive behaviors, aggressive or manipulative and, in case of conflict, how to get a satisfactory agreement for both parties.
Some people confuse assertiveness with aggression and say to themselves that they do not want to be assertive because aggression is always negative. Others choose to take a passive behavior and remain in the background even when their rights are threatened. There are also those who claim to be assertive but actually, behind that mask looks aggressive behavior. To be assertive is necessary to first accept the assertion of the other, not fit the alien, assume the rejection of a request, understand that you can not always win and, perhaps most difficult of all, not know said oneself, although in this case other things come into play as the will and emotions, that make the complex process.
Both passive and aggressive behaviors-are-related fear. Passive flees what he fears. Aggressive masks for fear that others will not discover that they are weak. Assertive faces his fears. The more assertive and be more willing to show you find who you are, do you feel and what you want, get more success in the areas of your life that you want.
To be assertive you must possess an active attitude and setting goals to increase your self-esteem. People who fail to distinguish between being liked and being respected get caught by the need to please everyone and sacrifice the respect due to themselves.
Assertiveness is expressed by three attitudes:
- Managing the environment. Properly manage lobstacles will emerge from time to time at work and in your personal life; as they can to shake your daily planning, especially if you have trouble saying no when necessary.
- Manage your emotions. Inappropriate emotional reactions interfere with the realization of your activity and can prevent you get your goals.
- Relate interpersonally. Being able to relate healthily with people around you, so you can make requests, ask favors and show your disagreement with them when necessary.
Assertive behavior increases self-esteem, reduces stress, promotes healthy relationships and positive, keeps at all times respect for oneself and prevents emotional manipulation.
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